The Architecture of Stillness

Why We Lost the Ability to Just Be

Björn Kenneth Holmström November 2025 18 min read

I used to be able to sit in simple joy at existence. Not doing anything. Not producing anything. Not even thinking about anything particularly profound. Just… being.

I remember a specific rock by the river in the Basque Country. I could sit there for an hour, feeling the sun move across my skin, listening to the water braid itself around the stones, and feeling completely full. Nothing was missing. Nothing was needed. The world felt sufficient, and I felt like a legitimate part of it.

It wasn’t that I was “enlightened.” It was simply that my internal architecture was intact. The mechanism that allows a human being to rest in the present moment was functioning as designed.

I don’t remember exactly when I lost that ability, but I know I did.

These days—or rather, the days before I began this inquiry—my mornings didn’t start with sun or silence. They started with coffee and a screen. Before my feet hit the floor, I was already scrolling through Google Chrome, hunting.

I told myself I was “researching.” I told myself I was looking for writing topics, or staying informed, or being productive. But if I was honest? I was feeding a bottomless need for stimulation. I was scratching an itch that only got itchier the more I scratched.

The ability to simply sit—to let a moment exist without extracting value from it, without documenting it, without using it as a stepping stone to the next moment—had atrophied.

I suspect I am not alone. We are a civilization of high-functioning addicts who don’t recognize our addiction because everyone else has it too. We have lost the capacity for Stillness.

And this isn’t just a personal failing. It isn’t a lack of discipline or “mindfulness.” It is a systemic collapse of cognitive infrastructure.

The Voice of the Overseer

Why is it so hard to just sit?

When we try—really try—to do nothing for ten minutes, we don’t just feel bored. We feel a specific kind of pressure. A low-grade anxiety that tightens the chest. A voice that whispers:

“You should be doing something useful.”

“You are wasting time.”

“You are falling behind.”

We treat this voice as “conscience” or “ambition.” But it is neither. It is cultural programming. It is the internalized voice of an economic system that views human beings primarily as units of production.

In the “Orange” (Modern/Rational) worldview, value is defined by output. Time is a resource to be mined. A moment spent “doing nothing” is a resource wasted—a leak in the system that must be plugged.

This programming has burrowed so deep into our cognitive architecture that we can no longer distinguish between “Self” and “Productivity.” When we stop producing, we feel like we stop existing.

The Invisible Architecture of Value

To understand why we can’t sit still, we have to look at how we construct Value.

Consider a thought experiment: Why do you value work? If I asked you this, you would likely have a clear, robust answer. You might say: “Work provides income. Income provides security. Security enables wellbeing.” Or: “Work allows me to contribute. Contribution creates meaning. Meaning makes life worth living.”

Notice the structure of that thought. It is a Causal Chain. You have a mental model that links the action (Work) to a tangible, positive outcome (Wellbeing). Because this chain exists in your mind, “Work” feels rational, valuable, and safe.

Now ask: Why do you value Stillness?

For most modern minds, the chain breaks. Stillness → …Relaxation? → …Recharging? → …So I can work better tomorrow?

We have an impoverished causal model for Being. We mostly view it as the “absence of doing”—a battery-recharge period for the productive self—rather than a valuable state in itself.

You cannot value what you cannot name, measure, or conceptually justify.

If your brain thinks Stillness = Zero Output, then your brain—which is a brilliant optimization engine—will try to eliminate Stillness. It will fill the gap with scrolling, planning, or worrying, because even “worrying” feels like doing something.

The Scaffolding We Lost

It wasn’t always this way. Our ancestors had what I call “Cognitive Scaffolding” for stillness—conceptual, cultural, and ritual frameworks that made “not-doing” intelligible and valuable.

This scaffolding protected the “Being” state from the “Doing” state.

1. The Sabbath as Temporal Architecture For thousands of years, the Sabbath wasn’t just “the weekend.” It was a ritual obligation. It framed Time not as a homogeneous resource to be used, but as a sacred domain. To work on the Sabbath wasn’t “productive”; it was a violation of cosmic order. This belief acted as a shield. It allowed a peasant or a merchant to stop working without guilt, because the “Doing Self” was ordered by God to sit down.

2. The Jhanas as Technical Maps In Buddhist traditions, stillness wasn’t just “sitting there.” It was a high-tech skill. The Jhanas (states of absorption) provided a detailed map of the territory of silence. A practitioner knew that “doing nothing” was actually the gateway to profound states of rapture, equanimity, and insight. They had a Causal Chain: Stillness → Concentration → Insight → Liberation. Because they had the map, they valued the journey.

3. Prayer as Communion In contemplative Christian or Sufi traditions, silence wasn’t “empty.” It was “full.” It was the space where you met the Divine. To be silent was to be attentive to the most important conversation in the universe.

These weren’t just “religions.” They were technologies of attention. They provided the “Why” and the “How” that allowed the human nervous system to settle. They protected the interior life from the demands of the exterior world.

We dismantled those structures (through secularization and modernization) because they felt restrictive or unscientific. But we never replaced them. We tore down the cathedral to build a factory, and now we wonder why we have nowhere to sit.

We are trying to run high-performance minds without a cooling system.

The Physics of Integration

We cannot simply “go back” to ancient traditions. We cannot force ourselves to believe in a Sabbath if we don’t believe in the God who commanded it.

We need to build New Cognitive Scaffolding compatible with a modern, systemic worldview.

We need to understand stillness through the lens of Information Physics.

A human being is an information processing system. We take in data (sensory inputs, ideas, emotions), we process it, and we output behavior.

  • Doing is the Data Collection phase.
  • Being is the Data Integration phase.

Just as a body needs sleep to repair muscle and consolidate memory, the mind needs stillness to integrate complexity.

When we are constantly “doing”—constantly scrolling, listening to podcasts at 2x speed, optimizing every second—we are flooding the system with inputs without allowing the processing cycle to run.

This leads to Metabolic Failure. The “fog” of burnout isn’t just tiredness; it is a system overwhelmed by unintegrated data. It is the “spinning beachball of death” on a computer that has too many applications open.

Stillness is not the absence of work. It is the presence of Integration.

It is the phase where information becomes wisdom. Where experiences become memories. Where the fragmented parts of the self (Project Janus) have the time to talk to each other and cohere.

Without this phase, we become smarter (more data) but less wise (less integration). We become reactive, scattered, and brittle.

Rebuilding the Infrastructure

Reclaiming this capacity is not a luxury; it is a strategic necessity for anyone who wants to navigate the polycrisis. You cannot perceive systems clearly from a scattered, compulsive state.

We must start by rebuilding the scaffolding locally, in our own minds and homes.

1. Name the Value Redefine stillness. Stop calling it “downtime.” Call it “Integration Time.” Recognize that without it, your decision-making quality degrades. Make “Being” a legitimate calendar appointment.

2. Create the Container (Sanctuaries) You need physical and temporal zones where the logic of productivity is explicitly suspended.

  • The Digital Sabbath: 24 hours a week offline. Not to “detox,” but to remember who you are when you aren’t a node in the network.
  • The Sacred Spot: A chair, a corner, a rock by the river where no phone is allowed.

3. The Practice of Resistance When you sit to integrate, the “Doing Self” will panic. It will scream that you are wasting time. Do not fight it. Just name it. “Ah, that is the anxiety of non-production. That is the Orange Operating System trying to run a subroutine.”

Observe the compulsion like a scientist observing a chemical reaction. Don’t identify with it. Let it burn itself out.

The 7-Day Scaffolding Experiment

If you want to rebuild this capacity, don’t try to become a monk tomorrow. Start by building the smallest possible scaffold.

Do this once a day for seven days.

  1. Sit for 7-10 minutes with zero agenda. No meditation app. No “goal” to relax. Just sit.
  2. When the urge to “do” appears, name its flavor:
    • “Planning…”
    • “Guilt…”
    • “Restlessness…”
    • “Future-tripping…”
    • (This builds the meta-cognitive muscle to see the programming).
  3. At the end, write one sentence only:
    • “Today the strongest pull was __.”

You are not trying to “fix” yourself. You are trying to see the invisible architecture that runs your life. Seeing is the first real freedom.

Conclusion: The Architect’s Duty

We are living in a world designed to fracture us. The economy, the technology, the culture—they are all optimized to extract our attention and convert it into profit.

To be still in such a world is an act of rebellion. It is a refusal to be merely a resource.

But more than that, it is an act of self-construction. It is the decision to rebuild the internal walls that protect the sanctuary of the human spirit.

We lost the ability to just be. But we can build it back. Not by willpower, but by design.

It starts with one breath. One moment where you refuse to scroll. One moment where you choose, against all the pressure of the world, to simply exist.


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